The name Gulzar is synonymous with soulful poetry and heart-touching lyrics. His work, from timeless songs to profound Shayari, has left an indelible mark on Indian cinema and literature. However, behind the eloquent words and poetic expressions lies a personal life filled with bittersweet memories, particularly his tumultuous relationship with actress Rakhee. As Gulzar turns 90 on August 18, the story of his marriage to Rakhee remains one of the most talked-about aspects of his life.
The Early Life and Rise of Gulzar
Born as Sampooran Singh Kalra on August 18, 1934, in Dina, Punjab (now in Pakistan), Gulzar’s journey to fame was far from easy. His family moved to India after the Partition, and Gulzar never imagined that he would one day become a legendary figure in the world of cinema. Over the years, his pen crafted masterpieces that resonated with audiences both in Bollywood and Hollywood. Yet, despite all the accolades and fame, Gulzar’s personal life, especially his marriage, was far from a fairy tale.
The Love Story of Gulzar and Rakhee
Gulzar and Rakhee’s love story began on the sets of Rajshri Productions’ film Jeevan-Mrityu in the early 1970s. Despite a 13-year age difference, the couple fell deeply in love and tied the knot on May 15, 1973. Their daughter, Meghna Gulzar, was born on December 13, 1973, completing their small family.
However, just a year after their marriage, the relationship began to crumble. By December 1974, Gulzar and Rakhee were living separately, a split that shocked their fans and the film industry alike.
The Condition That Led to the Split
One of the main reasons behind the couple’s separation was a condition Gulzar imposed on Rakhee before their marriage. Gulzar, a deeply private and traditional man, asked Rakhee to quit acting after marriage. Although Rakhee initially agreed, she hoped that Gulzar would eventually allow her to return to the screen.
After the marriage, Rakhee expressed her desire to resume her acting career, but Gulzar refused. He even declined to cast her in the films he directed, much to her disappointment. During this time, Yash Chopra approached Rakhee for his film Kabhi Kabhie. Although Rakhee was initially hesitant, Yash convinced her by revealing that the role was written with her in mind. Determined to get Gulzar’s approval, Rakhee traveled to Kashmir, where Gulzar was filming Aandhi.
The Incident That Broke Their Marriage
The turning point in their relationship came when Rakhee visited Gulzar on the sets of Aandhi. She noticed a growing closeness between Gulzar and actress Suchitra Sen, which led to a confrontation. One day, while on the set, Rakhee witnessed a moment between Suchitra Sen and Sanjeev Kumar. Sanjeev, in a drunken state, held Suchitra’s hand, which angered her. Gulzar intervened to calm the situation and escorted Suchitra to her room.
When Gulzar returned, Rakhee asked him if he was having an affair with Suchitra. Enraged by the accusation, Gulzar lost his temper and raised his hand on Rakhee. This incident shattered Rakhee, and she decided to separate from Gulzar. The couple began living apart in 1974, just a year after their daughter’s birth.
Life After Separation
After separating from Gulzar, Rakhee resumed her acting career with renewed vigor. She signed several films, starting with Kabhi Kabhie in 1976, which featured an ensemble cast including Amitabh Bachchan, Shashi Kapoor, Rishi Kapoor, and Neetu Singh. The film was a success, and Rakhee’s career flourished.
Despite their separation, Gulzar and Rakhee never officially divorced. Over the years, they maintained a cordial relationship and continued to support each other. In an interview, Gulzar shared that even today, when he craves fish cooked by Rakhee, he gifts her a saree as a token of appreciation. He lovingly mentioned that he has become an expert in identifying beautiful Dhakai and Tant sarees due to the numerous gifts he has given her over the years. Gulzar also revealed that they continue to celebrate important occasions, including their daughter Meghna’s birthday, together as a family.
A Love That Endured Despite the Distance
Gulzar and Rakhee’s love story is a poignant reminder that relationships, no matter how strained, can endure through mutual respect and understanding. Even after 46 years of living separately, their bond remains unbroken, a testament to the deep connection they once shared. As Gulzar celebrates his 90th birthday, his life story continues to inspire, not just through his words, but through the love and resilience he has shown in his personal life.